23 May Want to have a success mindset? Here’s how…
Happiness, surely, is the ultimate success.
There’s much we can learn, therefore, in our efforts to create more happiness from those who’ve achieved success…
via Inc.com by Marcel Schwantes
Nobody likes to fail. Yet failure is the secret to success. If you haven’t been rejected a number of times, the current mantra goes, you just haven’t experienced success.
Sir Richard Branson, founder of Virgin Group, swears by this premise. At Virgin, they encourage and even celebrate failure. There’s an underlying theme there that, without trying something new and failing, it’s virtually impossible to innovate and grow.
Branson says, “Do not be embarrassed by your failures. Learn from them and start again. Making mistakes and experiencing setbacks is part of the DNA of every successful entrepreneur, and I am no exception.”
Wherever you are on your career path, it’s time to acknowledge that failing is common, no matter how hard you try to avoid it.
But here’s the thing. There’s one superhuman quality — a mindset — every person needs to master on their journey of failing forward. Without it, you may as well toss in the towel now and never try again.
I speak of resilience.
The science of resilience and how to cope well with failure
We all face challenges and unexpected events in our lives. The key is how well we are able to cope with life’s surprises. In resilience, we adjust to changes and challenges as well as develop the ability to “spring back” emotionally after dealing with a stressful period.
Research on resilience suggests a number of traits to help us following difficult and stressful life events. These characteristics for building resilience can be divided into three major themes:
- Attitude: Providing the outlook, focus, and psychological support that can lead to personal growth
- Resilience skill development: Learning and applying techniques for problem solving: changing your perception, empathic listening, and communicating effectively with others
- Healthy lifestyle: Supporting the physical and emotional energy needed to recharge
Psychologist Rick Hanson, the New York Times best-selling author of Resilient, says one of every human being’s basic needs is satisfaction (the other two needs are safety and connection). When this need for satisfaction — whether at work, starting a business, or pursuing your dream of choice — is met by drawing from these four mental resources, we become resilient.
- Mindfulness: Staying present in the moment as it is, rather than daydreaming, ruminating, or being distracted
- Gratitude: Appreciating and feeling good about what already exists
- Motivation: Pursuing opportunities in the face of challenges
- Aspiration: Reaching for and achieving results that are important to us
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