04 Nov Happiness and judging (or not) others
As he’s done so many times before, Lou Tice has once again penned some words of wisdom which although not directly about happiness, are without doubt relevant to anyone wanting to improve the quality of their relationships which is, quite definitely, crucial for happiness.
Winner’s Circle Network with Lou Tice – 11/2/07 – “Judging Others”
Have you heard it said, that the things you see and dislike in others are things you probably dislike about yourself?
When you see things about other people that you don’t like, can it teach you anything about yourself? For instance, if you look at someone and think, “He is angry, and I don’t like that,” could it be that you don’t like it when you, yourself are angry?
If you look at someone and say, ‘she is really scared. Why doesn’t she just do it?” could it be there is something you are scared about, something you wish you could “just do?”
Suppose you disapprove of smoking and don’t smoke yourself. You wonder how that could be about you. Well, ask yourself, “Why do I disapprove of smoking?” Perhaps it is because smoking is unhealthy. If you look within yourself, you may find that you too, do things that are unhealthy which trouble you. Or, you may disapprove because you consider smoking inconsiderate, and there are ways that you too, are inconsiderate.
You see, when we judge others, if we look within we usually find a similar judgment about ourselves. Now, judgments rarely do any good, but once you understand what you are really doing, you can, if you choose, decide to stop.
So, pay attention next time you disapprove of someone else, and see what you can learn about yourself.
Lou Tice
The Pacific Institute
www.thepacificinstitute.com