30 Mar Happiness is not a solo sport
As many regular readers would well know, at The Happiness Institute we believe that happiness involves others (that is, my happiness is not just about me but also about my family and friends and colleagues etc).
Accordingly, we often say that happiness is not just feeling good but it’s also about doing good (to and for othersO.
Consistent with this, Lou Tice has once again written some relevant and useful words of advice. Although he doesn’t specifically mention happiness I think you’ll see that it’s very relevant. So read on and enjoy…
Winner’s Circle Network with Lou Tice – 3/27/08 – “Cooperation”
Today, let’s look at cooperation and why it is so important to have, as you move toward achieving your goals.
Change seldom happens in a vacuum. As we move toward our goals, we must often work together with other people. When you know how to cooperate, you are much more likely to get the help that allows you to change and grow successfully.
If you try to change without cooperation, you may find yourself stuck or even failing. Cooperation can mean the difference between being supported and being sabotaged. It is an important skill to have.
How do you get others to cooperate with you? Well, remember that we reap what we sow, so look for opportunities to help other people and listen to their concerns. Along the same lines, stay open to suggestions and support when they are offered. You don’t have to wait for them to be offered. Ask for what you want and need, and that means knowing specifically what you want and from whom.
Be willing to negotiate. Refrain from making demands. Compromise and trade favors, instead.
Be realistic about what you expect from others, and don’t try to get all your needs met from just one person. Ask more people to do less, rather than expecting few people to do more, if that will make it more likely to get what you want.
When cooperation works as it should, everybody gains something, nobody loses, and you will move more smoothly toward your goals.
Lou Tice
The Pacific Institute
www.thepacificinstitute.com