05 Apr 18 tips to bounce back from just about everything
On this Good Friday I think the topic of "bouncing back" is pretty relevant. Happiness is about enjoying the good times but also about getting through the tough times and so thought I'd share with you this great article from Psych Central…
You can bounce back from the tough times in life by using any number of skills that help improve your resiliency. Here’s a quick list of some of the most useful tips with some helpful links included.
Remember that most of these are a practice. You’re not expected to master them overnight. But go ahead and pick out one or two – or fourteen! – to try.
1. Accept what is.
You’ve got a bad situation in front of you and it’s time to become completely honest with yourself and really seewhat is happening. No more denial or wishful thinking that it will get better. Take away all the emotion from it, identify the problem, and accept that it is reality.
2. Firmly grasp the reality that change is a part of life.
You struggle against change. You expend a lot of energy making sure that change doesn’t happen in your life. Save your energy for better things and accept that change truly is a normal part of life. Expect it.
3. Learn to be an optimist.
Optimism and pessimism are ways you explain why things happen to you. Being optimistic allows you to bounce back because it helps you focus on the positive and not predict the negative. For a terrific article on this, please go here.
4. Learn to be self-compassionate.
The pioneer of self-compassion research, Kristin Neff, suggests you do these three things: a.) Be kind to yourself (stop the inner criticism), b.) Remember that, as a part of the human race, we’re all flawed in some way and apt to make mistakes, and c.) Practice mindfulness. Check the links for more information.
5. Learn to let things go.
Grasping tightly to a belief, behavior, or material thing only drains your energy and narrows your focus onto that thing. In order to be resilient, you need flexibility and openness to options and opportunities.
6. Gather your posse.
Having friends and family who are close enough to rally around you in an emergency is essential. Make sure you have a good, stable posse at your disposal.
7. Even the darkest cloud can have a silver lining.
Always look for the lessons and gifts in adversity. Check out this great story.
8. Believe in post-traumatic growth.
When faced with trauma, a small number of people develop Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, the majority of people bounce back naturally after a month or so, and the remaining people actually grow and benefit from the experience. How? The basics are being optimistic and looking for the lessons in their lives. Give it a try…
…read the full and original article, and the remaining 10 tips for finding more happiness even during difficult times HERE