13 May Why happiness is NOT selfishness AND how you can build positive relationships
Hi everyone and thanks for reading this new blog post. Today's posting actually comes from The Happiness Institute's FREE eNewsletter that's sent out each and every Monday morning. This one went out yesterday so for those of you who missed it you can read on below (and for those of you who don't want to miss any of our great mail outs you can sign up at no cost at all HERE)…
One of the greatest myths about happiness is that it somehow equates with selfishness and/or hedonism. Now there's no doubt we do need to take care of ourselves and seeking pleasure is (in context) a good thing BUT research clearly points to the fact that the happiest people have both more and better quality relationships. As one of the "grandfathers" of Positive Psychology, Chris Peterson, once famously said…"other people matter". Another very well know researcher, George Vaillant, has also been known to sum up his decades of research into longevity and quality of life in one simple word…"love". His research (summarised HERE) notes, among other things the importance of a warm and caring relationship with one's mother as well as close, good friendships in childhood. One the flip side of this, isolation is increasingly being recognised as one of the developed worlds greatest killers and as one of the most significant barriers to health and happiness (read more HERE).
This week's practical tips therefore, focus on how you can boost your health and wellbeing, your happiness and more via the development and fostering of good quality relationships. If you're interested in achieving this keep reading and apply some of the tips listed below…
Make a conscious effort to work at your relationships
Talk about things that really matter
Be nice – and caring and considerate and more
Celebrate life – with others about whom you care
Argue politely – disagreements are inevitable but rudeness or agression need not be
Don't allow boredom to sneak in!