If you believe (as I do) that “in giving we receive”, then give these 8 things for more happiness!

If you believe (as I do) that “in giving we receive”, then give these 8 things for more happiness!

Here at The Happiness Institute we very much believe that "other people matter". 

That is, good quality relationships are vitally important to our health and wellbeing and happiness. 

Within this, we know quite a few things that the happiest people do to boost the quality of their relationships; and one of those things is that they're more giving. 

Which is whey we thought we'd share this article with you, fellow happiness seekers, because it sums up 8 things extraordinary people give to others (and in return, they receive happiness)…

by Angel Chernoff

Today, as I was sitting on the edge of a cliff at a local park, staring off into the distance and thinking about my day, I turned around to see a young lady who was almost in tears slowly walking down to where I was sitting.  I got up, walked up to her and asked, “What’s wrong?”  She told me she was deathly afraid of heights, but was worried about me and wanted to get over her fear because I looked lonely sitting by myself, and she wanted to make sure I was OK and in a healthy state of mind.

Her name is Kate, and her braveness and kindness blew my mind.

I spent the rest of the day thinking about what an extraordinary person Kate is and about what it means to be extraordinary.  Above all, I think, extraordinary people give generously in numerous ways.  Specifically, they give others…

1.  Reliable, sincere support.

The closest thing to being cared for is to care for others.  We are all in this together and we should treat each other as such.  The very demons that torment each of us, torment others all over the world.  It is our challenges and troubles that connect us at the deepest level.

If you think about the people who have had the greatest positive effect on your life – the ones who truly made a difference – you will likely realize that they aren’t the ones that tried to give you all the answers or solve all your problems.  They’re the ones who sat silently with you when you needed a moment to think, who lent you a shoulder when you needed to cry, and who tolerated not having all the answers, but stood beside you anyway.  Be this person for those around you every chance you get.

2.  Undivided attention and focus.

There is greatness and beauty in making time, especially when it’s inconvenient, for the sake of someone nearby.

You don’t have to tell people that you care, just show them.  In your relationships and interactions with others, nothing you can give is more appreciated than your sincere, focused attention.  Being with someone, listening without a clock and without anticipation of results is the ultimate compliment.  It is indeed the most valued gesture you can make to another human being.

When we pay attention to each other we breathe new life into each other.  With frequent attention and affection our relationships flourish, and we as individuals grow wiser and stronger.  We help heal each other’s wounds and support each other’s growth.  So give someone the gift of YOU – your time, undivided attention and kindness.  That’s better than any other gift, it won’t break or get lost, and will always be remembered.  (Marc and I discuss this in more detail in the “Relationships” chapter of 1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently.)

3.  The freedom to be themselves.

Life’s greatest privilege is to become who you truly are.  You have to dare to be yourself, one hundred percent, however anxious or odd that self may prove to be.  The people who support you in doing so are extraordinary.  Appreciate these people and their kindness, and pay it forward when you’re able.

Never bully someone into silence.  Never victimize others for being different.  Accept no one’s close-minded definition of another person.  Let people define themselves.  You have the ability to show people how awesome they are, just the way they are.  So act on this ability without hesitation; and don’t forget to show yourself the same courtesy…

…keep reading the full & original article, with all 8 things to give away for happiness – HERE