28 Jan Why you should stop judging others (and maybe even yourself)
Although judging others is a natural process…it's typically not helpful (for you or for them).
Judging others (and even judging ourselves) often causes anger and frustraion, misery and unhappiness.
So for those of us wanting MORE happiness, letting go of judging can be very useful.
Here's a great article from ZenHabits on why and how…
One of the best changes I’ve made to help me be happier is learning to see judging other people as a red flag.
Now, I’m not going to pretend I don’t ever judge other people — I think it’s either a built-in method all humans have, or something we develop because of built-in methods. We all judge people, and I’m not an exception.
But I’ve gotten better at noticing when it happens. And recognizing that it’s a sign of something harmful.
The judging itself isn’t bad. It’s what the judging is a symptom of that’s harmful. I say “harmful” instead of “bad” because instead of judging I’d rather observe that it causes harm.
What underlying harmful causes/situations are indicated by my judging people? Well, here are a few:
I am very ignorant of what the person is going through.
I don’t understand the situation.
I have unrealistic expectations of people.
I think I’m superior to other people.
I’m not grateful.
I’m being self-centered.
I’m not being curious, but instead I close off all learning.
I can’t really help the situation from a place of judgment.
How That Happens
Let’s take a fake but typical example so I can show you what I mean (I’m going to bold the symptoms, so forgive the overemphasis)…
…keep reading more HERE