16 Jul Take responsibility for your happiness BUT NOT for these 4 things!
Here at the Happiness Institute we're strong advocates of taking responsibility…for life and for happiness.
Much of our happiness is within our control so if we accept responsibility for this we'll be well on our way to enjoying happiness.
But sometimes we take responsibility fo things that don't help our happiness which is why I think you should all read this article …
by Noel from LifeHack
Since we were kids, we were taught to be responsible people. We were trained to accept whatever others hand over to us. That is the way to be nice and likeable. As a result, we compromise and accept everything including the things that we don’t really love or want. Stop being responsible for them, follow your heart and lead a joyful life.
1. You are not responsible for making people happy.
“If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete.” – Gautama Buddha
Helping people is a wonderful act. But if you don’t feel good after doing it, it’s definitely not the right thing to do. My friend is hardworking and always lends a hand to co-workers in need. She keeps accepting jobs until they are more than what she can bear. In the end, she makes her co-workers happy but she suffers in silence alone. Well, this is quite common as we often feel guilty saying “no” because we don’t want to be mean. But it’s even worse if you neglect to take care of yourself because then you can’t do your own job. Help, share and love, but with a healthy limit.
2. You are not responsible for with others’ labels.
“Stop with the labels… because we are not jam jars; we are extraordinary, different, wonderful people.” – Caroline Casey
Someone call you “ugly fatty” just because you are not skinny and thin? Well, don’t fall into the trap of believing in what they said. You are never ever the cause of their bullying. You are not responsible for that and you don’t have to conform to their ignorance. Instead, your job is just to walk away from the jokers and disregard their abusive labels. Remember, you are only in charge of building a happy, fulfilling life for yourself. It’s not going to hurt you if you refuse to accept the nuisance. The ones who try to insult you will only insult themselves by revealing how shallow-minded they are…
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