12 Nov If you think being INTERESTING would make you happy then check out these 7 things the most interesting people all have in common!
by Eric Barker from TIME
I’ve posted a lot of research from experts on getting people to like you, being influential and having great conversations.
What’s the best way to use all this information to be more interesting?
1) First, Don’t Be Boring
Sometimes the best offense is a good defense. Look at it like the Hippocratic Oath of conversations: Do no harm.
We’re all terrible at realizing when we bore others because, well, we all think we’re just fascinating.
The #1 tip for never boring anyone comes from Scott Adams: Be brief, be positive.
If you’re always to the point and stay upbeat, it’s extremely hard for anyone to accuse you of being poor company.
But sometimes you do need to speak a little longer to make sure things don’t get stilted.
The Art of Civilized Conversation offers another good tip: Is anyone asking you questions about what you’re saying?
If not, maybe it’s time to end the story or ask the other person a question.
2) The Most Captivating People Are Often Good Listeners
Impressing people can be great but it can also devolve into status jockeying, one-upmanship and envy.
People love to talk about themselves and there are a dearth of good listeners.
Let the other person talk. It gives their brain as much pleasure as food or money:
Talking about ourselves—whether in a personal conversation or through social media sites like Facebook and Twitter—triggers the same sensation of pleasure in the brain as food or money…
You can make an excellent impression by saying amazingly little. Ironically, the people we like the most often say the least…
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