25 Nov Deepen and improve your relationships with these 9 simple tips!
As regular readers of this happiness blog would well be aware, we very much believe that a key contributor to happiness and health and wellbeing and quality of life and, pretty much everything, is…the extent to which we have good people in our lives!
Family, friends and colleagues are vital for our health, happiness and success.
As has been famously said many times…other people matter!
So this article, then, by Dr. Terri Orbuch from the Huffington Post, is very relevant and well worth reading…
Happy relationships shouldn't be hard work! That's one of the upbeat findings from my landmark study of marriage, which has been following 373 married couples since 1986. Here's more good news for lovebirds: If you're in a happy partnership, married or not, you can keep it that way or make it even better by introducing a few new behaviors and small changes into the relationship. While many relationship experts say you need to focus on fixing what's wrong, my research shows that adding positive behaviors to the relationship has a much greater impact on couples' happiness.
Here are nine ways to deepen your relationship bond and be a happier couple, based on my research study.
1. Accept your partner's uniqueness. We have all had moments when we wished our partner was thinner, wealthier, more romantic, and so on. Take a look at your expectations and ask yourself how realistic they are. Unrealistic expectations lead to chronic frustration, which my study found is the main reason relationships fail.
2. Do random acts of kindness — often. Small gestures that say "I'm thinking of you" are essential to keep the relationship bond strong — e.g., he fills up her tank with gas, she brings him a steaming cup of coffee in bed. Hand holding, touching or a midday love email are all small ways of showing affection. Research shows that the accumulation of small gestures has a bigger impact on couple happiness than grand, less frequent gestures.
3. Devote 10 minutes a day to connecting. Most couples think they talk to each other all the time. But how often do you talk about things that really deepen your understanding of your mate? The happy couples in my study talked to each other frequently — not about their relationship, but about other things — and felt they knew a lot about their spouse in four key areas: friends, stressors, life dreams, and values. Set aside 10 minutes a day — I call it "The 10-Minute Rule," to talk to your partner about anything other than work, family, the household, or the relationship. This simple change infuses relationships with new spirit and life…
…keep reading the full & original article HERE