18 Dec 22 tips to change your life for the better and be happy!
It's so good connecting online with people from all around the world; people who I'd never normall meet in my day to day life.
And it's especially good when they're interested in happiness, as I am, and/or in doing what they can to make the world a better place.
Giovanni recently got in touch with me via LinkedIn and among other things, asked me to read a blog post he'd written on happiness.
I did and, well, I thought I'd share it with all of you here today…
Are you truly happy? Is happiness a passing feeling or a state of being for you?
Tons of articles (and books) have been written about how to be happy, and there is some good information out there. I have read and synthesised hundreds of hours of research and experiments here for you, in this action-driven article.
What you will find is some deep, life-changing stuff (if you are looking for some “quick tips” instead, check out this post).
If you think that all talk about “how to be happy” is fluffy material and common sense, you are in it for a change.
Each item is concluded with a suggested action step. And at the end of the post you will find a link to download a PDF with all of them icon smile How to be happy 22 life changing secrets on personal fulfilment and self actualization
Understanding what authentic happiness is
Is happiness a feeling or a state of being? What is its nature, and what are its causes?
Wikipedia defines happiness as “a mental or emotional state of well-being characterized by positive or pleasant emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy”. There can never be, any objective measurement of happiness based on external achievements. It is an interpretation of reality, and not a result of reality.
The problem seems to be understanding what causes human beings to continually experience this state. My research and self-experiments have led me to believe (that) there are three “kinds” of happiness: personal, transpersonal, (and) transcendental.
Personal happiness. Most people live by the belief that happiness is simply the result of accumulating as many pleasurable moments as possible, and of fulfilling one’s desires. Money, possessions, food, fun, sex, fame, power. Here is both the trap of “living as if there is no tomorrow” (the hedonistic blind focus in the present) and “living in hope of a better tomorrow” (putting off happiness to the achievement of a future goal).
The problem with this is that the pursuit of these pleasures and achievements can often be a painful and frustrating process (that is, an unhappy process). Besides, the happy-feeling resulting from these achievements is short-lived and usually less glorious than the promise (see Havard psychologist Daniel Gilbert on “miswanting” ). On top of that, in many cases we must fight hard to keep what was gained. Finally, even if we are those rare beings that can always easily get and keep what we want, without much pain associate(d) with it, the inevitable result after a while is boredom and indifference. Not really the definition of a fulfilled life, right? Sounds more like an ocean of trouble, with some islands of happy feelings.
The verbs for personal happiness are: “to get”, “to feel”, “to achieve”.
Transpersonal happiness. Scientific research in the field of positive psychology, pioneered by Dr. Martin Seligman, PhD, proposes that a higher “zone” of happiness is to use one’s unique qualities and perspective in the service of something larger than oneself. This “higher cause” can revolve around family, community, science, art, world reform, spiritual transformation, etc.Here, happiness is more of a process, a continuum. A path, rather than an event. And because its cause is larger than one’s ego, so is the resulting joy.
The verbs for transpersonal happiness are: “to do”, “to grow”, “to impact”
Transcendental happiness. A more uncommon view of happiness, proposed by many eastern traditions, is that it is our natural state of being. Our true self. If it is natural to us, why then is it not experience always? Just like health is inherent to our body but is disturbed by bad habits and bad food, happiness is inherent to our heart but disturbed by negative mindsets.
The verbs for transcendental happiness are: “to be”, “to discover”, “to transform”.
These three “kinds” are not self-excluding. Each one has its place and you can have it all…
…keep reading HERE for more. You really should; because there's some awesome stuff you can put into practice, right now, to enjoy more happiness and satisfaction with life.