16 Feb 5 Simple Tips from Experts in Happiness
What's the best way to create and to enjoy more happiness?
Well, there's probably not just one way as different things will work for different people but as a general rule you probably can't go past…keeping it simple and sticking to what the experts recommend.
Which is why today's article is so great; it highlights 5 happiness tips, from people who know a lot about happiness.
Read on and enjoy…
by Jon Young via the Huffington Post UK
Most of us agree that happiness is worth pursuing. But we tend to have very different ways of trying to achieve it. For some of us, it is defined by the size of our house or bank balance. For others, it's all about family, friends and relationships. Yet, others claim that it can only be achieved through having no possessions or relationships at all.
I have spent a lot of time in the last few years trying to understand what happiness means for me. I am definitely not an expert, and my girlfriend will (correctly) tell you that I don't always practise what I preach. But as I've gone along, I've come across a handful of recurring and inspiring themes. They have definitely made me happier, and I hope, through listing them below I can signpost others to the same path.
1. Only you can make you happy. My journey started in a self-development centre called Inner Space in Covent Garden when I attended one of their free 'Self-Esteem' courses. The foundation of their teaching is that we cannot be happy if we rely on external factors to achieve it. External factors include anything from people's opinions, to the state of our finances, to the train running late, to the weather! They are each out of our control and by letting them drive our happiness, they effectively own it. The first step is to restore the ownership back to ourselves.
2. Stop getting angry. I've come across this in several places, but most memorably in a book called Don't get Mad Get Wise, by Mike George. Aside from ensuring no-one sat next to me on the tube, the book taught me the futility and damaging effects of negative emotions. Anger, the author argues, arises when our expectations of an external situation are not met. It is, quite simply, a negative reaction to the world not being as we want it. Expecting the world to shape itself around our designs, is irrational. Reacting negatively when it invariably doesn't is even more so.
Anger clouds our thinking, creates resentment, generates fear and (through triggering the release of cortisol) is bad for our health. We can reduce our anger by letting go of our constructed expectations and simply accepting situations as they are…
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