04 Mar 7 ways to stop doing and start being
So often, in my travels and in my work, I see people struggle for the same reasons.
And one of the more common reasons people struggle with happiness is because they're constantly striving to achieve more and to have more.
Now achievement and ownership are not, inherently or always, bad but if we pin all our happiness on material possessions and accomplishment which often means the approval of others then … we can face problems.
Which is why I liked this article from the Huffington Post that provides tips for enjoying happiness by BEING more and DOING less…
by Estelle Williams
There is a madness in men and women today and it's spilling over to our children too. This madness is our constant need for change – with our relationships, our jobs, our possessions, our education, and our status in life. Striving for something better and never resting until that something is achieved is a modern disease. Competitiveness causes anxiety and stress, ensuring we constantly perceive a state of lack within ourselves and are never satisfied.
We are constantly doing, but what if instead we chose to be?
Being vs. Doing
Being is a sense of feeling present to exactly who you are in this moment, rather than doing something to try and make improvements because you perceive yourself or your life as imperfect. It may seem hard at first to make the switch, but the rewards will far outweigh the effort required.
Here are seven ways that you can start being today:
1. Decide what is most important to you.
Do you live life according to the plans or expectations of others? It might be your parents who decided what path your life should take, or it may be your culture's expectations that you feel obligated to live up to.
In order to truly live your being-ness, you need to decide what is most important to you in life and take steps to honor those things. Along with that comes no longer doing the things you think you should do.
In this way, you are acting more in alignment with who you are, with your being-ness and not doing what conflicts with your highest values.
2. Choose to be happy in each moment.
Many people believe happiness is something that comes from external sources — a job or career, upbringing, finances or partner. I disagree. Happiness is a choice that comes from within. It is a decision you can make from moment to moment. This is living truly from a sense of Being.
If you expect happiness to be delivered to you by others or an act of serendipity, you'll find yourself pretty unhappy when those expectations are not met. What can you find in this moment to be happy about?
3. Honor your strengths.
When you are living your life focusing on your strengths, you are living in being. What you are good at — your strengths — comes naturally to you. The activities you struggle to grasp or never really achieve mastery of are examples of doing that just don't work. Stop telling yourself that you need to be good at everything and focus instead on what lights you up…
…keep reading the FULL article HERE