20 things you should say to yourself more often

20 things you should say to yourself more often

Talking to yourself is NOT a sign of insanity!

In fact talking to yourself in the RIGHT way can be a path to sanity AND to happiness. 

Happy people tend to say more self-affirming and confidence building and positive things; and not surprisingly, happiness comes from saying far fewer self-defeating, self-destructive, negative things. 

So for more happiness, try saying these 20 things to yourself MORE often…

via Marc Chernoff

What we do comes out of who we believe we are.

A good friend of mine, who graduated with honors from Cal Berkley several years ago, is now the co-founder and CEO of a successful start-up in Silicon Valley.  Throughout grade school he struggled with reading and writing disabilities.  He spent kindergarten all the way through 12th grade in English ESE classes.  During a parent-teacher conference when he was a freshman in high school, two ESE teachers collectively informed his mom that it was highly unlikely he would ever graduate.

So how did he do it?  How did he push through and overcome the odds?  “Affirmations,” he told me with a serious smile when I interviewed him yesterday for a side-project I’m working on.  “I literally told myself that they were wrong about me.  I told myself exactly what I needed to hear, every single day, to move my life forward.  It may sound like a cliché to some people, but it’s not; it’s powerful stuff!”

I love his sentiment, and I agree with him 110%.  In fact, there’s a good reason why training our minds with positive affirmations works wonders like this.

Just like every muscle in the body, the mind needs to be exercised to gain strength.  It needs to be worked consistently to grow and develop over time.  If you haven’t pushed your mind in thousands of little ways over time, of course it’ll crumble on the one day that things get really challenging.

A mind well trained with positive affirmations has the right thoughts queued up and ready for retrieval at a moment’s notice.

If you’d like to begin (or enhance) this practice in your own life, here’s a selection of affirmations I often suggest to our coaching/course students, as starting point:

  1. “I cannot control everything that happens to me; I can only control the way I respond to what happens.  In my response is my power.”

  2. “I will not get caught up in what could’ve been or should’ve been.  I will look instead at the power and possibility of what is, right now.”

  3. “I have to accept whatever comes my way, and the only important thing is that I meet it with the best I have to give.”

  4. “Making mistakes is always better than faking perfections.”  (Read The Gifts of Imperfection.)

  5. “I will never be as good as everyone tells me when I win, and I will never be as bad as I think when I lose.”

…keep reading for more great happiness boosting things to say to yourself – HERE