4 steps to get from where you are to being happy where you are!

4 steps to get from where you are to being happy where you are!

by Tree Franklin via the Huffington Post

I went to a corporate cocktail party a few nights ago, and being the introvert that I am and deathly allergic to small talk, I decided to skip it and get right down to business. My business, not theirs. Happiness.

I quickly discovered that when confronted with the question, "Are you happy?" people generally have the same two answers, "Yes, but…" and "I'll be happy when…"

"Yes, but I'll be happier when I lose these last 10 pounds."

"Yes, but I can't wait to close this deal, it's taken so long."

"I'll be happy when I find another job. This one sucks."

"I'll be happy when I win the lottery."

Notice the common theme? There's always a caveat, a condition, one more thing that could happen to make that person truly happy. And unless that one thing happens, there will always be a "but" and a "when" holding them back from full, all out, no holds barred happiness. No matter what they have already achieved, there will always be at least one more thing standing between them and true happiness.

What's your "one more thing"? What's the excuse you use to hold yourself back from experiencing the joy and happiness you want right now?

By projecting the achievement of our true happiness into a certain unknown point in the future based on the realization of a certain condition, also in the future, we are actually denying the existence of it in our present moment. We are the ones standing between ourselves and true happiness, not the condition.

Happiness is not created or found by manipulating and shifting life's circumstances, achieving goals or becoming worthy of it.

True happiness exists right now. It's here, while you're reading these words. It's real, in this moment. Inside, where it matters. It's not based on any condition and it's available to all. For free. Now.

The steps below will help you move internally from where you are to being happy where you are. They will create an internal shift to help you get happy now on your way to wherever you want to go.

1. Be open to the possibility that you can be happy right here, right now, without changing your circumstances. Many will read the title of this article and think, "I don't want to stay where I am. I will never be happy here. Show me how to get where I want to be, then I'll be happy." To those, this article will be nothing more than one of a hundred other articles they skipped in their elusive search for happiness. They will continue to chase their tail, day after day, year after year, without realizing that their tail is attached to them and all they have to do to get it is be still and know that it's already theirs. To those who are still reading, it means you have come to a point in your life where you realize that circumstances don't create real, lasting happiness. You may still want things to change, but you know that your happiness doesn't depend on it. You're no longer content to chase the tail because you realize you're the source of the tail, and it already belongs to you…

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