01 Dec 7 ways to get on top of those depressing, negative thoughts
via PickTheBrain by Alan Marsden
There you go again.
Criticizing yourself with negative thoughts and constantly worrying about what other people think.
You worry about what people think of your opinions and your decisions. You don’t feel good about yourself, so you hold back. But this only achieves one thing. It keeps you right where you are in life, missing opportunities and wondering what if…
What if I had applied for that job, or what if I had asked that person on a date?
Allowing your negative thoughts to chip away at your confidence bit by bit does more harm to your self-belief than anything said by other people.
And you know what? Those negative thoughts are just lies.
So it’s time to change the narrative, and you are the only one who can.
You should never let your worries stop you from achieving your hopes and plans. Worry, or negative thinking, is only driven by fear. A fear of the future or of failure. But with the right tactics, you can banish these thoughts from ever holding you back.
The following seven steps will radically change how such thinking affects you. Once you start using your mental powers differently, you’ll be bursting with newfound confidence.
1. Recognize the true impact of your thoughts
Gather evidence about how your thinking affects your daily experience. By knowing and observing your thoughts, you will come to recognize when and how they affect the events in your life.
Take a few minutes each day to reflect on how you felt at different times. Write in a journal to record how certain thoughts made you feel and when they occurred. Then ask yourself how those feelings affected your mood and outlook. Once you see patterns, you’ll be able to anticipate them more effectively.
2. Stop lying to yourself
Negative thoughts or worrying can be shown for what they truly are. False. Worrying is a form of lying to yourself.
For example, in the run-up to a recent vacation, I started to worry about flying. In my mind, I pictured all kinds of scary possibilities. So I said to myself, “Right, let’s see what happens,” and carried on regardless.
Well, the holiday turned out to be a nice, relaxing time. Travel went without a hitch, and my negative thoughts proved to be a million miles from reality. Just fiction. Try collecting a few of your own examples like this to see just how unfounded worry can be…
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