25 Jan The 11 Daily Habits of Supremely Happy People
via the Huffington Post by R L Adams
We all have different goals, values, beliefs, and experiences, but there is one universal thing that binds us all: We just want to be happy. But for the most part, happiness seems more like an existential dream than an attainable reality.
Yet, everything we think, say, and do are linked to our innermost desires to achieve happiness. We get a new job because we think it will make us happy. We buy a new car because we think happiness might exist there. Or we get married, have kids, and maybe travel to some far-off destination because we think it will provide that sense of happiness we're all chasing.
But for some reason, often no matter what we do, happiness is just out of reach. That feeling of utter elation seems more temporary than permanent. It's here one moment, then gone the next. Just when we seem to have attained happiness in one form or another, the feeling is lost into the abyss.
So how is it that some people seem to be happy all the time?
What is it that they know that the rest of us don't? Have they uncovered some big secret? Have they discovered some strange potion? How can they be happy no matter what, while the rest of us seem to be endlessly chasing a concept that almost seems to not exist?
While this question has plagued individuals for an eternity, on a macro-level, the answers are far more clear. Supremely happy people exhibit a certain set of daily habits that sets them apart from the rest.
They have happy habits. In fact, there are 11 very important habits that happy people perform on a daily basis that help to reinforce their state of happiness.
These 11 happy habits aren't created overnight — they're part of a repertoire of behavior that form over time. So, if you want to be happy, mimic and build these 11 happy habits into your daily routines.
Commit to at least 90 to 180 days of performing these happy habits to help make the behavior automatic, and happiness will no longer be out of reach; it will be well within your grasp.
#1 — They Smile
Happy people smile, even when they don't have much to smile about. It's part of a state of mind, but more so, habitual behavior. The important part about smiling is that the change in physiology actually triggers a change in psychology.
Smiling fosters a happy state-of-mind, just as a happy state-of-mind fosters the desire to smile. In a study conducted by R Soussignan in 2002, where a pencil in the mouth was used to manipulate a forced or genuine (duchenne) smile while watching cartoons, this precise concept was confirmed.
It was determined that the people who exhibited duchenne smiles had a more pleasant experience while watching funny or humorous parts of the cartoon, while having a less negative experience during the bad parts. This "suggests that facial feedback has more powerful effects when facial configurations represent valid analogs of basic emotional expressions."
#2 — They Build and Nurture Relationships
Happy people believe in relationships, and not just the kind that are one-sided and only benefit them. They believe in mutually-beneficial relationships, and work hard to ensure that they build and nurture not only existing relationships, but also new ones as well.
Happy people know that, in order to truly be happy, the focus can't just be on themselves; it must also be on others. That's what community is all about. When the focus shifts from yourself to others, you also move from a state of lack to a state of abundance.
What your mind is saying, subconsciously, is that you have enough of whatever you need in life, so you want to help others in any way you can. That, in turn, fosters a more happy state of existence and also forms the foundation for a life dedicated to contribution and giving.
#3 — They Create Value
Happy people are focused on the long term. They work to create value in whatever it is that they're doing in life. Instead of cutting corners, they go above and beyond the call of duty, so to speak. They always strive to provide more value in their work than what others have paid for it.
This is just as true for both employees and employers. Happy employees work hard and give their jobs all that they've got. They provide more value in their time than what's paid by their employers. For employers, they create value by delivering superior products and services that help people solve a problem or fill a need in the best possible way…
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