23 Jun From little things, big things grow…especially happiness!
via Inc.com by Minda Zetlin
Would you rather be happier or more successful? That should be a no-brainer, shouldn’t it? Sadly, many ambitious professionals (including me) would find it a tough choice to make.
But there’s good news: You really don’t have to choose. Contrary to our popular idea of the super-driven, often joyless executive or entrepreneur, the fact is that the happier you are, the more successful you’re likely to be. That observation comes from best-selling author and executive coach Wendy Capland. A while back, I wrote a column from an interview with Capland, and as a follow-up we decided she would coach me and that I would write about it.
Our conversations lately have tended to revolve around happiness. Not surprising: I’ve reached some of my personal goals over the past several months. (One of them was to grow readership for this column, which topped 1 million last month for the first time.) But an intense work schedule, coupled with the hunt for a home in an overheated real estate market had left me feeling more harried and exhausted than satisfied or serene. Where, I wondered, was the joy in all this?
It’s an important question, Capland says, because if you’re successful but not happy, not only does that suck for you but also you may not stay successful for long. “It’s a universal thing that if our mood is any version of negative, our results will be affected,” she explains. That negative mood can result in what she calls a “downward spiral.”
Get into that spiral, and others will notice, consciously or unconsciously, and they may be put off. “I don’t want to hang out with anyone who’s consistently in a downward spiral mood,” she says. “I don’t want to do business with them, or have them as friends, or talk to them unless I have to. People are interested in surrounding themselves with others who are more positive. They want to do business with them.”
The message is clear. If you’re not happy you should do something about it, for the sake of your career, if not for the happiness itself. Changing from unhappy to happy may be a tall order, but Capland has some suggestions that may help…
…keep reading the full & original article HERE