02 Aug This is how to create more happiness
Check out this fantastic reminder of all that science has proven about making more happiness…
This is How To Find Happiness: 6 Proven Secrets From Research
via Barking up the Wrong Tree by Eric Barker
We all want to know how to find happiness. And the internet is chock full of advice on how to get there — but most of it is based on studies done on a bunch of college sophomores.
Maybe, just maybe, we shouldn’t trust our 19 year-old selves when it comes to the most important thing in life…
So what produces happiness all around the world, among people young and old, across the most varied backgrounds imaginable? I figured I’d call an expert who knows the answer…
Robert Biswas-Diener is known as the “Indiana Jones” of psychology. He’s spent time studying happiness in India, Greenland, Spain, and Israel. He’s hung out with the Amish and the Masai of Kenya to see what produces smiles everywhere.
He’s an instructor at Portland State University and co-author of the book Happiness: Unlocking the Mysteries of Psychological Wealth.
Robert is going to explain how to find meaning in your work, what the biggest happiness mistake you make is, and the three words that are most likely to brighten your day (and they’re not “winning the lottery.”)
Let’s get to it…
AIM For Happiness
Taken literally that sounds like corny self-help talk. But AIM is an acronym. (Research is much easier to follow when you can actually remember it, right?)
A is for attention. Quite simply, you’ll be as happy as where your attention is directed. Focus on the good stuff, be optimistic, and you’ll feel good.
Focus on the bad stuff (that’s pretty much what we call “news” these days) and you’re going to feel worse. Here’s Robert:
What you pay attention to in the world is what you’re going to end up knowing. Stuff will never get into your head if you don’t look at it. If what you’re paying attention to is bad news, if what you’re paying attention to is all that goes wrong in the world, that’s going to be what ends up cluttering your mind. Just keeping your visual horizon open in terms of “What am I looking at? If I can look at some good stuff, then that gives me the opportunity, in terms of my thinking, to be happy.”
The I in AIM is for interpretation. We tend to think that the way we see things right now is the only way to look at them. Wrong.
A promotion can feel like a good thing — or it can scare you because you don’t feel up to the new challenges. Losing your job can be awful, or if it was lousy job it can be the best thing to happen to you in years.
You can’t control the facts, but you do have control over how you interpret them. And it’s the latter that determines whether you’ll feel happy or not. Here’s Robert:
We all know people who can take the exact same piece of news and think it’s bad or good. A lot of what goes on in our individual worlds is subject to interpretation. Is a promotion an opportunity to feel anxious or is it an exciting new time where I get to feel empowered? That’s all the interpretation.
The M stands for memory. You don’t know what’s going to happen next in life, so thinking about the future can be fun or terrifying.
Happy memories, however, are a safe bet. You can turn to those for a guaranteed boost when you need it. Take time to look back and savor those moments that made you smile. Here’s Robert:
Memory has to do with savoring: reliving the positive moments. This is a bit counterintuitive, but the past is in some ways a more secure repository of happiness than the future. We’re always trying to make future decisions in the hope that it will make us happy, but your past has guaranteed points of happiness. I think that if you occasionally look back to the past, you can dredge some of those happy memories into the present and feel them with the same emotional resonance that you did at the time they occurred.
(To learn how to be happier and more successful, click here.)
Okay, so AIM is a good way to remember some fundamental things that can keep you happy. But what should you actually do every day to build a happier life? (And, no, eating ice cream 24/7 is not an option.)
Is there a principle to guide your actions at work and at home that can make sure you get more pleasure out of most any task? Yes…
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