25 Aug 17 habits of people who’re always positive and happy
via Bustle by Raven Ishak
Have you ever met someone and wondered how they’re so positive all the time. They’re always so happy and never complain. There are specific types of habits that positive people have that help maintain their happy demeanor. While it might seem hard to be positive all the time, there’s a way to be more grateful and not take life so seriously. No one else can control your feelings besides you, so if you want to be more positive, you have to take the appropriate steps to get there.
“I’ve been counseling using Positive Psychology for many years. Positive, happy people do have an easier time in life, and bounce back from problems faster. There are always things you can do to increase your level of optimism, even if you can’t change who you are. Whether you realize it or not, you are responsible for lifting your own feelings and no one else is responsible for making you feel better,” says Tina B. Tessina, PhD, in an interview with Bustle over email.
If you feel like you have been a Debby Downer lately and want to change your life around, here are 17 habits you can copy from positive people to make you into a more positive person.
1. They Write Down Their Goals
Writing down your goals is a great habit to have when you want to live a more positive life. It means you have a clear vision of what you want and how you want to get there. “This programs your brain to help you find the positive steps you can take to meet your goals. It will alert your brain to notice things and events that are related to your goal. You will automatically be more aware of certain events, opportunities and people who can be helpful. You’ll also be more clear about what you want, and this will sneak into your conversation and your general attitude, where others can pick up on it,” says Tessina.
2. They’re Always Kind To Others
If you decide to be kind to others, you will most likely feel more happy, which can make you feel more positive in general. Live a more positive life by treating others how you would want to be treated. “The easiest way to get what you want is to make a pleasant request, and deliver it with a big smile and a warm look. [Saying] “please” is very important, and so is a gracious smile, eye contact, and a warm thank you when the request is met. If you make requests confidently, as if you expect to get a ‘yes,’ it ups the odds that you’ll get one. ‘Please go to lunch with me.’ works better than ‘You wouldn’t want to go to lunch, would you?'” says Tessina.
3. They Respect Themselves
Positive people usually live a great life because they not only respect others, but respect themselves as well. They show pride in themselves, which allows others to respect them as well. “Dress as if you feel special, and act that way. The more you respect yourself, the more others will respect you. Make sure you present yourself well, dress and act the part,” says Tessina…
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