23 Feb The Dalai Lama’s teachings on compassion are confirmed by psychological research…
Psychologists test the Dalai Lama’s teaching on Compassion, and it works
Anyone in a relationship knows that it feels good to do something nice for your significant other. In fact, in general, it just feels good to give. Theorists have posited a spectrum of reasons why this is so, from the “egoist” position that we only give in hope of receiving back to accounts that suggest that “we” are merely giving to support similar genetic material or to strengthen social bonds.
The Dalai Lama’s famous quote (or paraphrase) is that “If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.”
Essentially: just be compassionate!
The reasoning is spelled out more here:
Of course, it is natural and right that we all want friends. I often joke that if you really want to be selfish, you should be very altruistic! You should take good care of others, be concerned for their welfare, help them, serve them, make more friends, make more smiles, The result? When you yourself need help, you find plenty of helpers! If, on the other hand, you neglect the happiness of others, in the long term you will be the loser. And is friendship produced through quarrels and anger, jealousy and intense competitiveness? I do not think so. Only affection brings us genuine close friends.
At least to a new spouse. As always, the experiments should be replicated and expanded, but initial results are good.
Harry Reis, a University of Rochester (NY) professor of psychology, conducted research on 175 north American newlyweds. Specifically, he said that the “study was designed to test a hypothesis put forth by Tenzin Gyatso, the current Dalai Lama that compassionate concern for others’ welfare enhances one’s own affective state.”
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