24 May Healthy detachment – 1 thing you can do to immediately enjoy more health, happiness & success!
via Inc.com by Marla Tabaka
Desperately wanting, or needing a specific outcome in any given circumstance–to the point of stressing out about it–is harmful to your health and happiness. Literally. Stress headaches, anxiety, upset stomach, and shortness of breath are all symptoms of becoming overly attached to an idea or specific outcome. To be overly attached to your definition of success, the purchase of a new house or car, and especially to someone else’s actions, will keep you trapped in fear and a continuous state of unhealthy desire and lack.
People who can successfully detach from the outcome will not be affected or daunted by obstacles or failures; they always bounce back and try again. Those who are overly focused on getting exactly what they want and how they want it to happen fall into patterns of self-pity and concern about failure and missed opportunities. The person who manages healthy detachment is always innovating and moving forward. A state of healthy detachment helps to redefine failure and shifts the focus to positive, solution-based thinking.
Becoming overly attached gives away your power.
Last week I purchased a fabulous new car. Most of us see this process as a frustrating and stressful ordeal. I made a conscious decision to have a positive purchasing experience with an outcome that was exactly right for everyone concerned. I did not, however, define the outcome. Instead, I conditioned myself to become completely detached from it. Please don’t confuse detachment with giving up or not caring, this is very different. This is about acceptance, gratitude, and creating a positive reality for yourself. It’s not at all that I didn’t care whether I got this new car, I simply knew that if I allowed emotion to lead the negotiation, I would not get what I wanted.
So, I asked myself, what is the worst-case scenario? Simple. I wouldn’t get the car and I’d remain in my current vehicle for a while longer. I loved my car but its mileage was adding up. Yet there were many benefits to keeping an SUV-sized vehicle rather than going to a sedan. And who doesn’t like being payment free? Either way, I told myself, I win. As a result, I negotiated the price down by two-thirds. Yes, you read that right. In the end, everyone was happy: The dealership made a sale and I drove away in a fabulous new car–all because I remained detached from the outcome…
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