17 Jul 6 qualities of a likeable person (according to science) – and how to have them
If happiness is being connected and having good quality relationships; then happiness, at least in part, involves liking and being liked by others.
It goes without saying, then, that more happiness can come from being more likeable; and if you want to be more likeable you should try building these 6 qualities…
via Inc.com by Marcel Schwantes
There are so many factors to consider when it comes to being a person that will attract others to you. Perhaps showcasing your emotional intelligence and keeping your cool under pressure is a feature of your likability.
If you’re looking to influence your boss, connect with people in high places, or expand your business and social networks, start paying attention to what science is saying will make you more likable.
1. Be curious and ask interesting questions.
Want to be the most interesting person in the room? In a previous article, I posed seven questions a person needs to ask that will ignite captivating conversations. But in order for that scenario to happen, curiosity is the social prerequisite.
Several studies published in the Greater Good Science Center reveal that curious people have better relationships and connect better with others. In fact, other people are more easily attracted and feel socially closer to individuals that display curiosity.
George Mason University psychologist Todd Kashdan, author of Curious?, conducted one of the studies and wasn’t surprised by his findings: “Being interested is more important in cultivating a relationship and maintaining a relationship than being interesting; that’s what gets the dialogue going. It’s the secret juice of relationships,” stated Kashdan.
2. Describe other people in the positive.
Research has found that when it comes to winning people over, lavishing them with positive comments will give others a positive perception of you. But beware: The reverse is true for negative comments.
The studies, conducted by Purdue University and published in The Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, suggest that when someone says something, good or bad, about someone else, people tend to associate that trait with the person who made the statement.
So, for example, if you call another person dishonest, the people you’re speaking to will tend to remember you, the speaker, as being less than honest.
On the flip side, when people hear someone describe someone else as, say, intelligent or funny, the brain conjures up an image of intelligence or humor. That somehow gets linked to a mental image of the speaker, so when the listeners are asked to recall the speaker later, the intelligence or humorous aspects are also activated and the speaker is remembered as a smart or funny person…
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