How to stay mentally strong (without “positive thinking”)

How to stay mentally strong (without “positive thinking”)

I’ve written before about how important it is to build mental strength.

We won’t be happy all the time and things don’t go right for us all the time so for more happiness and success in life, mental strength is so important.

But real happiness isn’t all about “positive thinking”.

In fact real happiness is about so much more than just positive thinking and mentally strong people do think optimistically BUT they also do this one, important thing…

via by Amy Morin

There’s a lot to be said for the power of positive thinking. Believing in yourself and looking on the bright side can help you get through some of life’s toughest challenges.

But, being too optimistic is harmful.  It can actually do more harm than good.

While I definitely spend more time helping people reframe their negative thoughts in my psychotherapy office–people with anxiety or depression tend to dwell on the negative or underestimate their ability to persevere–there are times when I have to address overly positive thoughts too.

Someone launching a new endeavor might say, “I know I’m going to make it big,” or an individual starting a new job says, “This is so easy I don’t even need any training.” That way of thinking can be a big problem.

The Perils of Being Overly Optimistic

It’s actually easier to help people replace their negative thoughts with healthier statements. Their negative thoughts cause them to feel bad and they want to feel better.

But overly optimistic thoughts make people feel good. And they don’t want anyone to rain on their parade. So they’re more resistant to hearing any logic that may imply things might not be as rosy as they think.

Here are three types of optimistic thoughts that do more harm than good…

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