11 Sep 15 ways to repair yourself if you’ve been broken
Being broken need not preclude happiness.
In fact happiness is not a life without breaks and fractures; rather, happiness is a life that finds beauty and strength within the cracks and failures.
Wabi sabi is a Japanese philosophy built on exactly this; finding happiness and wonder within that which appears imperfect. And given we’re all imperfect, accepting and rebuilding on top of these shortcomings can create more happiness than many of us thought possible …
via PopSugar by Brenda Della Casa
Stop using the word “broken,” as a start.
Whether dealing with a breakup, a job loss, or one of the dozen other life situations that can bring your whole world to a halt, it’s important to remember that life is a series of ups and downs for all of us. Though it can feel isolating, the reality is that there isn’t one among us who hasn’t felt like we needed to get our proverbial sh*t together or that we were “losing it” at some point.
If you’re in this place now, take this as your sign to take deep breath, take control, and move forward. Not sure how to be confident after feeling like you’re falling apart? Here are 15 ways to start building self-esteem and put the pieces back together. We got you.
1. Stop using the word “broken,” as a start.
Your words matter, especially when speaking to yourself. Instead of viewing yourself as “broken” or “lost” or whatever negative, self-defeating word comes to mind, recognize that you’re strong enough to get out of a not-so-great place. It’s less about what you are than where you are, and that is an important distinction when looking to make real progress.
2. Make a list of the things you need to stop doing.
What good is a fantastic new habit if you’re still participating in one that negates it? Think about it for a moment: hitting the gym every morning and eating half a cake at night isn’t going to do much for your efforts. The same goes for everything else in your life.
Make a list of the things you do that stand in your own way and commit to replacing those knee-jerk habits with something else. Once you have a plan, you can then focus on what you need to start doing.
3. Stop hating on yourself.
Make a decision to be an observer in your life instead of judging everything so harshly. Instead of lamenting on the things you have done wrong, be grateful for a new perspective and the freedom in accountability, and start focusing on extracting the lessons and finding healthy ways to do better.
4. Change the conversation.
It’s tempting to sit and rehash the same stories over and over, but our words become our mantra, and saying how unhappy, broken or miserable you are will only reinforce your sense of helplessness. Try using more positive and powerful words, and you’ll find that you not only feel better, but the world will respond to you differently.
5. Surround yourself with warriors.
Misery might love company, but do you want to spend the rest of your life hanging out with people who only reinforce the idea that you’re a victim with no personal power? That answer should be no.
Surround yourself with people who have a “can-do” attitude toward adversity and you’ll likely not only feel motivated, but learn very practical ways to make adjustments in your own life…
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