29 Jan Should you aim high? Or have realistic expectations? Maybe both!
If happiness is about being our best selves then aiming high and achieving as much as we can should be part of that.
At the same time, however, one of the greatest happiness killers is unrealistic expectations which cause disappointment and frustration.
What should we do then?
Well, along with many other paradoxes in live, maybe for happiness we need to do both…
via the Ladders by Darius Foroux
The world is full of paradoxes. One of the biggest is the tradeoff between having high and low expectations.
On the one hand, we need to expect to win at life, otherwise; what’s the point of even trying? But on the other hand, we can’t be discouraged when we lose.
The two different concepts are perfectly explained by the following two quotes.
- “You were born to win, but to be a winner, you must plan to win, prepare to win, and expect to win.” — Zig Ziglar
- “Blessed is he who expects nothing, for he shall never be disappointed.”― Alexander Pope
The first quote says we should expect to win, the second one says we shouldn’t expect to win. So which attitude do you pick?
This is a hard concept to wrap your head around. It took me years to find a balance that worked for me…
…keep reading the full & original article HERE