28 Feb 3 simple ways to be a great parent
This one’s for all the parents.
For all the parents who want to be happy and who want to raise happy children.
Happiness is challenging at the best of times; but when it’s dependent on the happiness of others, as it often is for parents, it can be even more evasive!
This article, however, provides a few simple and powerful tips which I recommend all parents to read and share with their fellow mums and dads too…
via Eric Barker
You know how it goes. You want this little person to do the thing and they won’t do the thing and somehow zero-point-two-seconds later you’re in the midst of a tear-filled screaming match in the hair care aisle at CVS.
You start thinking about how your real kid may have been switched at birth for this pint-sized tyrant who seems bent on reenacting “The Omen” in public. And teenagers make you want to skip right past negotiating and just call an exorcist. Yes, you love them, but kids can drive you crazy.
Or… maybe we’re just working off a completely boneheaded paradigm when we deal with our children. I will now attempt to illustrate this point with a seemingly absurd scenario:
I’m with my fictional friend Hans. Hans only speaks German.
Me: Speak English.
Hans: (something in German)
Hans: (something in German)
Me: Stop defying my will, Hans!
Hans: (shouts in German)
And on it goes. Who’s the idiot here? Me. Why? I’m acting like he’s willfully resisting me when the reality is that he simply doesn’t have the skills required to comply. No amount of me shouting, threatening or pleading is going to suddenly teach him to speak another language.
If I asked you “Do kids have the abilities and self-control of adults?” you would laugh and say, “Of course not.” But we often treat kids — especially during heated moments — like they have the abilities and self-control of adults. Does not compute.
This doesn’t mean we just let them do whatever they want. But it does mean we need to think a little less of parenting as being a prison warden and more like it’s about teaching.
Yeah, sounds nice but easier said than done, right? Well, let me up the ante even more…
What if you could exert discipline and teach your kids better behavior and develop a stronger bond with them, all at the same time? Sound good? But how the heck do you do that?
Frankly, I have no idea. But luckily, Ross Greene does…
He was on the faculty at Harvard Medical School for over 20 years. Greene designed a system that has not only been validated by research but has also been successfully used for decades in families, schools, juvenile detention facilities and inpatient psychiatric units. His book is The Explosive Child.
Let’s get to it…
…keep reading the full & original article HERE