15 Apr Ask this 1 question suggested by Oprah Winfrey and give anyone the greatest gift of all
There’s no doubt that one of the key contributors to happiness is good quality relationships.
And there’s no doubt that for happiness to come from your relationships you need to be present within interpersonal interactions…
via Inc.com by Jeff Haden
And in the process of conducting more than 37,000 interviews, she learned also to listen for one thing — and to use it to guide her interaction with that person.
As Oprah says:
Everybody that I had on the show, at the end of the show, would (whisper) something to me like, “Was that OK? Was that OK?”
That includes people like Barack Obama, George Bush, and Beyonce.
No matter how important, no matter how successful, no matter how self-confident, almost everyone asked, “Was that OK?”
Why did so many people ask that question?
Here’s Oprah again:
At the end of the day … whatever your profession, wherever you are in your life, in your relationships … every person you encounter, that person wants to know, “Was that OK?”
What I started to hear was that what people are really saying was: Did you hear me, and did what I say mean anything to you?
And so I started to listen with that in mind, with that intention of validating that your being here, your speaking to me … is important because you matter.
Every (encounter that you have), the person just wants to know, “Did you hear me … did you see me … and did I say anything that mattered?”
Which makes perfect sense. We all want to feel like what we say and do has meaning. We all want to feel like what we say and do makes a difference.
Whether in business, in our personal lives, even in the briefest of encounters, we all want to feel like we matter.
How to Make People Feel Special
Oprah’s goal is to validate the other person: to show that she not only listened but heard the other person — that the other person matters.
And so can you, even in the briefest encounters.
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