Check out this great way to boost your self-esteem

Check out this great way to boost your self-esteem

Happiness is NOT selfishness.

Happiness is NOT all about us as individuals.

In fact, the positive psychology research clearly indicates that happiness is very much about others, about our relationships, about how we care about and support those around us.

That being said, to do good to and for others we need first to take care about ourselves; we need to feel good enough about ourselves so we have the energy and motivation to do more. Although this can be defined and considered in different way, one way of thinking about this aspect of happiness is as self-esteem…

via by Jessica Stillman

We live events in our lives at least twice. Once when events actually happen and again later when we review those events and organize them into some sort of coherent story. Both matter. Lucky events can be undermined by a destructive narrative about who you are and what you’ve accomplished, while challenging experiences can be transformed by thoughtful reflection.

Mentally creating these stories comes naturally (to a greater or lesser degree) to us humans, but new research suggests you can consciously manipulate your inborn need to connect the dots to boost your self-esteem and feel better about yourself.

Write your way to more self-esteem

The work is very new, the British Psychological Society Research Digest blog notes in its write-up of the findings, but it’s also fascinating and potentially useful for anyone in need of a self-esteem boost.

The setup for the studies was simple. Scientists rounded up around 700 adults and asked half of them to write about four “chapters” in their life for 10 minutes each. They were asked to think about how these incidents impacted their lives as a whole and how various events were linked together. As a control, the other half wrote similar biographical sketches of famous Americans. All participants’ self-esteem was tested before and after the activity.

The results were clear. “The participants who wrote about chapters in their lives displayed small, but statistically significant, increases to their self-esteem, whereas the control-group participants did not,” reports BPS. “This self-esteem boost wasn’t explained by any changes to their mood, and — to the researchers’ surprise — it didn’t matter whether the participants rated their chapters as mostly positive or negative.” 

In short, whether you wrote about happy or sad memories, or about events in or out of your control, you ended up feeling better about yourself, though not necessarily any happier. The effects, however, only seemed to last a day or two. But that’s long enough to give you the boost you need to start a project, face a daunting challenge, or just get over one of those humps in life where you’re feeling a bit down on yourself…

…keep reading the full & original article HERE