STOP saying these 7 words to yourself … NOW!

STOP saying these 7 words to yourself … NOW!

Much of happiness and success is about what you do.

Confidence, and thus achievement and even happiness comes from doing the right things more than the wrong things.

At the same time, however, all of these (confidence, happiness, success etc) can be significantly influenced by what you DON’T do; and DON’T say. And here are 7 words you should definitely stop saying ASAP…

via by Melanie Curtin

Confidence isn’t binary. It isn’t something you either have or don’t. Rather, it’s something you practice, grow into, and develop.

This is important because if you’ve developed an identity around “not being confident,” you can just as easily develop the identity of, “I’m growing my confidence.” This is a growth mindset as opposed to a fixed one, and it matters. It changes you from the inside out.

One of the most basic ways to practice confidence is with your speech. Here are some terms to stop using, to supercharge your confidence:

1. Try

As in, “I’ll try to make it to that meeting.”

In this context, “try” really means “I don’t want to do that, but I’ll make it sound like I might so you won’t be mad at me.”

People-pleasers who don’t want to say no will often use “try” to punt. Confident people don’t do this. Instead, they follow Yoda’s advice: Do or do not. There is no try.

2. Maybe

“Can you get this done by Friday?”

Most of us have a gut instinct when we’re asked a question like this. We know what else we have going on and whether we have the bandwidth to take on another project. Counterintuitively, when you lack confidence you also tend to lack the conviction to say no. This often leads you to say something like, “Maybe…”, hoping that by your tone of voice, the person will let you off the hook.

Instead, a confident person will simply say “No” when they know that’s the answer that’s called for. They might add, “However, I could get that done by next Wednesday.” What they won’t say is maybe when they mean no.

3. Can’t

As in, “We can’t do that.”

It’s not that confident people never fail–it’s that they do fail. They’re willing to take risks because they know that if things don’t work out, they’re resilient. They’ll get knocked down but then get up again.

Thus, “We can’t do that” becomes, “This is risky, and I believe we can do it. And if it doesn’t work out, we’ll have each other’s backs.”

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