19 Sep stop self-judging and start self-accepting
Are you constantly judging yourself? In a negative way? Do you criticise everything you do and give yourself a hard time whenever you’re not perfect?
If you do, you’re one of many. This is extremely common. But it’s also extremely unhelpful and unhealthy. And it’s not at all likely to contribute to happiness.
In fact, it’s virtually impossible to enjoy happiness if you’re overly self-judgemental. But the good new is you have a far better chance of being happy if you can learn to be more self-accepting…
via the Ladders by Thomas Oppong
Mark Twain once said, “The worst loneliness is to not be comfortable with yourself.” He couldn’t be more right. If you finally accept yourself and your vulnerabilities, your life will be much more liberating.
According to Dr. Tara Brach, author of Radical Self Acceptance, the feelings of shame and unworthiness are the source of many problems we experience with our relationships, careers, and creative endeavors.
Self-acceptance is the ability to accept yourself as you are instead of how you wish you were, or how you wish others percieved you. It frees you from an overly high concern with what other people think about you.
Self-acceptance is the feeling of satisfaction with yourself despite your weaknesses and regardless of your past behaviors and choices. It’s necessary for good mental health.
When we’re self-accepting, we’re able to embrace all facets of ourselves — not just the positive parts. Self-acceptance could be the key to a happier life, yet it’s the happy habit many people practice the least.
As Robert Holden puts it in his book Happiness Now! “Happiness and self-acceptance go hand in hand. In fact, your level of self-acceptance determines your level of happiness. The more self-acceptance you have, the more happiness you’ll allow yourself to accept, receive and enjoy. In other words, you enjoy as much happiness as you believe you’re worthy of [emphasis added.”
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