20 Oct how and why to practice self-compassion when you’re disappointed in yourself
via Thrive Global by Thomas Oppong
Disappointment in ourselves is something we all share. You’ve probably had at least one time when you could have pushed yourself a little bit further to reach a goal, change a habit, or meet a deadline. We all get frustrated when this happens.
Learning how to thrive in spite of even your most epic disappointment is the key to bouncing back as soon as possible.
Most people experience disappointments almost every week. They feel they are not living life to their own standards and values. They expect more from themselves.
When you are disappointed, your mood quickly can changes. The feeling can significantly affect your progress in life. Disappointing yourself can make you question your choices, ambitions, self-worth, and your abilities.
Robert Kiyosaki once said, “The size of your success is measured by the strength of your desire; the size of your dream; and how you handle disappointment along the way.”
Be kind your yourself
If you recently failed to deliver a career-making presentation, missed a deadline, said something you absolutely should not have said to a loved one, a colleague at work or a friend — your life is not over! Everyone will not remember this mistake for the rest of your life.
Our failures are rarely as big as we imagine them to be. Ask yourself, will this matter one year from now?
“Being overly critical of ourselves can increase anxiety about a setback. But overthinking, or ruminating on what happened, is like agonizing self-criticism on repeat,” Rachel Simmons wrote in The New York Times’s guide to overcoming failure…
…for happiness, it’s just as important to effectively manage the tough times as it is to enjoy the good times; for happiness, therefore, self-compassion is vitally important. Keep reading the full & original article HERE