17 Dec 8 Mental Habits That Derail You From Success
With the new year, 2020, just around the corner I’m sure many of you (like me) are looking to create as much happiness and success as we can starting January 1.
At the same time, I’m sure many of you (like me) are used to undermining our own happiness and success with bad habits and self-defeating patterns.
But what if you DIDN’T derail your own happiness and success; what if you were more aware of your own undermining and then made the necessary changes so you could enjoy more of what you want in 2020 (including happiness and success)?
If you’re still interested, keep on reading…
via Inc.com by Scott Mautz
The path to success is jam-packed with common calls to action like not fearing failure, conquering procrastination, believing in yourself, staying focused, and not always waiting for the “right” time or for permission.
But sometimes it’s what we can’t see as clearly that clarifies our way forward.
Combining what I learned from many interviews on success drivers (conducted for my books and keynotes) with thirty years of experience creating and coaching success, I’ve identified eight less-than-obvious mental traps we fall into. These sneaky mental habits quietly derail us from accomplishing the things we set out to achieve. My goal is that awareness spurs avoidance.
1. Failing to see how successful you already are.
Just to blow your mind, what if I told you that the success you seek has already been largely accomplished? At a minimum, you’re likely more successful than you think. I discovered this in interviews when exploring what I call “The Happiness Equation.” The formula says: happiness = reality minus expectations. Greater happiness comes when what happens in reality exceeds what you were expecting to happen. To stay with the equation analogy, to increase happiness then means to either lower your expectations (not recommended) or to increase reality.
What astounded me was how many people were underestimating their reality, and how good their situation already was. Same with the pursuit of success; we’re often far more successful than we think we are, and pulling on a sense of gratitude helps clarify that. Gratitude is the core of inner strength, and inner strength leads to outer success.
2. The fallacy of others.
It’s easy to assume that becoming wildly successful is what other people do. It’s not about your lack of confidence or fear of failure or belief that you won’t put in the hard work, it’s just an assumption, taken as fact, that becomes belief. “There’s a different stratosphere of success that I’ll never know, that’s just how it is”, you might tell yourself without emotion.
Then, over time, you unwittingly and “rationally” lower your standards for the level of success within your grasp. I suspect, however, that very few people who reached great heights of success started out being presumptive about boundaries.
3. Not spending enough time on the problem.
This flies in the face of what you usually hear: don’t obsess over an issue or be a perfectionist, don’t keep putting off getting started. Agree, but my experience shows me people often don’t overcome a problem to achieve success because they haven’t spent enough time clearly defining the problem. A problem well understood is one well-solved, and the desire to “just get on with it” can lead to wasted time, effort, and delayed (or never realized) success…
…keep reading the full & original article HERE