16 Mar 4 habits that will train your brain to stop worrying
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again … it’s OK not to be OK.
No one should expect to feel happy all the time; happiness is a wonderful positive emotion, and happiness is something we should seek to create and enjoy as much as possible. But at the same time, happiness is not always appropriate and at times like these, with serious global health concerns affecting almost everyone in some way or other, then worry and anxiety are completely understandable.
That being said, and as much as we can “accept” worry and stress, we can also do something about it! We can actively minimise or manage worry and here’s how…
via the Ladders by Thomas Oppong
Centuries ago, Michel de Montaigne said, “My life has been filled with terrible misfortune; most of which never happened.”
His profound statement still proves true today. In fact, there are studies that prove that a greater percentage of the things we worry about never actually happen.
What if it doesn’t work out? What if I fail? Do any of these questions sound familiar to you? You’re not alone. Many people spend a lot of time worrying — worrying that everything they do is unsatisfactory, and worrying that others are so much better than them. Others worry about letting other people down, that other people are upset with them, and that other people are unhappy.
Constant worrying, negative thinking, and always expecting the worst can take a toll on your emotional and physical health.
Whether it’s a job interview, an upcoming presentation, or an important meeting, 38% of us are worried about something every day, according to the “Worry Less Report” by Liberty Mutual Insurance.
A survey of 2,000 millennials also showed that the average respondent spent the equivalent of 63 full days a year worried and stressed out. That’s like two months lost to worry. The ultra-bestselling American pop psychologist Wayne Dyer calls worry a “useless emotion”.
Worries, doubts, and anxieties are a normal part of life. But you consistently question your commitments and responsibilities and your contribution to the various aspects of your life, you should take steps to worry less.
Worrying less can be helpful and productive —when managed it can propel us into action and prevent procrastination.
Worrying can be productive, but not if it’s keeping from living your best life. Some people actively worry about a lot of things — filling up their heads with disastrous scenarios that will never play out. They magnify catastrophe in their minds. Worry overwhelm them so much that it keeps them from actually doing anything about it.
“Worry is part of human nature,” says Robert Leahy, a New York-based clinical psychologist and associate editor of the International Journal of Cognitive Therapy. “For some people, though, worry gets to be overwhelming,” Leahy says. “People who worry a lot tend to become depressed; you can worry yourself into this negative outlook on life.”
Most people spend a lot of time worrying about money, health, work, family, and more. They worry about what might happen if things don’t go exactly to plan. No matter what kind of worry you have, the response in your body is always the same: It increases your stress levels.
According to a new study published in the ScienceDirect, found that many of the worries that occupy an anxious mind never come to fruition. “91.4% of worries did not come true for those with a generalized anxiety disorder (GAD)”, the authors highlighted.
Worry robs us of our happiness and causes needless negativity. When you’re stuck in your head, worrying, you are missing out on life. Missing out on friends, opportunities and all the good stuff in the world.
“One of the most tragic things I know about human nature is that all of us tend to put off living. We are all dreaming of some magical rose garden over the horizon — instead of enjoying the roses that are blooming outside our windows today” says Dale Carnegie, in his book, How to Stop Worrying and Start Living.
Much our anxiety today is down to worrying about things that may never happen, or things we have literally no amount of control over. Of course, if you can control it, do something about it, but either way, you shouldn’t worry unnecessarily if they never happen.
How much worry is it really worth? At what point do we need to stop worrying and accept the situation as it is? What if there was a way to stop worrying (or at least stop worrying so much)?
… keep reading the full & original article HERE