Finding Hope in Challenging Times – Research shows five surprising ways to flourish in difficult times

Finding Hope in Challenging Times – Research shows five surprising ways to flourish in difficult times

Is it still possible to enjoy happiness in the time of Covid-19 / Coronavirus? Of course it is. And in fact, it should be a priority because happiness allows us to use our coping resources more effectively and also helps us connect better with others…

via Psychology Today by Diane Dreher

This week, wild roses are blooming in my backyard. Unlike hybrid tea roses, these roses bloom only once a year. And this year, their bright blossoms are all the more precious.

Like the wild rose, life brings us surprises, some welcome, some not. For the past few weeks, people all over the world have been suffering from fear and uncertainty, experiencing the challenge of the COVID-19 Coronavirus. Schools, workplaces, restaurants, theatres, and local shops have closed, familiar routines have been disrupted by lockdowns and social distancing, and each day’s news brings frightening statistics as we worry about how to stay safe. The virus has brought suffering, loss, and mental health challenges as lockdowns and closures have narrowed our lives.

Cut off from our normal routines, family, and friends, there is so much we cannot do. Yet although we cannot go out as we used to, what we can do is go within. We can take the time to reflect, get to know ourselves on a deeper level, and live from a more centered space. Here are five simple practices to help you find greater hope and peace of mind.

1. Practicing Nonviolent Communication. We can find greater peace of mind by applying psychologist Marshall Rosenberg’s nonviolent communication (2005) to ourselves.  To begin this practice:

  • Pause and take a slow mindful breath, then slowly exhale.
  • Ask yourself, “How do I feel?”—“Am I calm, relaxed, anxious, confused, worried, tired, hurt, disappointed, sad, lonely, excited, happy”—or something else?
  •  Whatever you feel, just recognize and label the feeling without judging yourself.
  • Then ask yourself, “What do I need?”  Our needs can range from food, rest, and security to emotional needs for love, acceptance, understanding, joy, play, creativity, inspiration, and meaning. What do you need right now?

2. Moving Forward with Hope.

  • Now set a goal to meet the need you identified to begin cultivating greater hope.
  • Write down your goal and when you hope to achieve it.
  • Think of three steps you can take to reach your goal.
  • Think of three obstacles or roadblocks that might occur.
  • Come up with a backup plan to deal with each obstacle.
  • Now take a moment to close your eyes and visualize yourself taking each step, confronting each obstacle, and using each backup step.
  • Smile as you visualize yourself reaching your goal, becoming aware of how you feel.   
  • Now take the first step and tell yourself, “I can do this” (Feldman & Dreher, 2012)

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