15 May 2 Psychological Tricks That Will Help You Stop Worrying About Things You Can’t Control
It’s hard to be happy if you’re worry all the time; especially if you’re worrying about things you can’t control. But the good news is there’re things you can do about it. Here are a few “tricks” to help you worry less and, therefore, free yourself up for more happiness…
via Forbes by Amy Morin
Worrying stems from a desire to be in control. We often want to control our environment. Or we may want control over the outcome of every situation.
But the more you try to control everything around you, the more anxious you’ll feel.
It’s a vicious cycle to break — worry, try to gain control, fail, and worry again. Repeat.
Worrying about things you can’t control — like the state of the economy or someone else’s behavior — will drain you of the mental strength you need to be your best.
It can also lead to other toxic habits, like blaming yourself too much or micromanaging other people.
Fortunately, you don’t have to resign yourself to being a lifelong “worry-wart.” You can take control of your mind and train your brain to think differently.
Here are two things you can do the next time you catch yourself worrying about things you can’t control:
1. Develop a realistic sense of control.
Identify what is within your control and what isn’t. For example, you can control how eye-catching your marketing ads are, but you can’t control whether people buy your product.
Additionally, you can give your employees the tools they need to succeed, but you can’t force them to be productive.
When you strike a healthy balance of control, you’ll see that you can choose your own attitude and behavior, but you can’t control many external factors.
So when you’re faced with a problem or experiencing discomfort, ask yourself, “Is this a problem I can solve? Or do I need to change how I feel about the problem?”
If it’s within your control, tackle the problem. If it’s out of your control, focus on changing your emotional state. Use healthy coping skills, like engaging in a hobby or practicing meditation, to deal with the uncomfortable emotions that get stirred up when things are out of your control…
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