16 Jul How To Take Radical Responsibility For Your Happiness And Success
via Forbes by Celinne da Costa
We’re continually looking for reasons why we’re unhappy right now. We take issue with our home, job, family, finances, education, looks, and everything else. We rage at our long commutes, unfulfilling jobs, and imperfect lives.
These problems will never end as long as we keep blaming everyone else. The more we blame others, the harder it will be for us to achieve true happiness.
You must take radical responsibility because the happiness and fulfillment you seek are available to you right now.
Many people think that they’ll be happy when they make a lot of money or get married. These things do contribute to well-being, but they don’t paint the whole picture. It’s entirely possible for a rich and married person to be miserable and for a poor and single person to be happy.
Rather than chasing an elusive dream and worrying that you don’t have enough, you need to reconfigure your mindset and change your perspective. You can be happy now while still working towards something better.
When you take radical responsibility, you control when and how you access happiness. You pick your own path and get what you want.
Here’s some inspiration on how you can take radical responsibility and become the master of your own happiness and success:
1. Find out what truly makes you happy.
Many people chase after superficial things they think will make them happy: money, success, popularity, power, and so on. However, these things usually only bring fleeting happiness.
One example is Alex J. Moscow, who became a drug dealer, not for the money, but to be accepted by his peers. His newfound popularity amongst his fraternity brothers came at a price as he was arrested and sent to jail. There, Moscow did much soul-searching and figured out he was chasing after the wrong thing. He wasn’t after money or popularity, but freedom. Moscow now works as a sales coach and no longer worries about chasing superficial goals. His passion and freedom are everything he needs.
If that story doesn’t convince you, consider this: Author Bronnie Ware asked hospice patients their biggest mistakes for her book The Top Five Regrets of the Dying.
The five most common concerns, in order, were:
1. “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.”
2. “I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.”
3. “I wish I had the courage to express my true feelings.”
4. “I wish I stayed in touch with my friends.”
5. “I wish I let myself be happier.”
Notice how the respondents didn’t mention money, power, or fame. They all wanted simpler things such as being true to themselves.
To Do: Consider your life goals and how they align with your work. How much money or fame do you need to be happy? How much is excessive?
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