9 Surprising Things Holding You Back From Being Successful (AND HAPPY)

9 Surprising Things Holding You Back From Being Successful (AND HAPPY)

via Forbes by Laura Garnett

As an expert in helping people be who they are and build the habits that are critical for success, I can confidently say that, most times, people aren’t even aware of what’s truly holding them back.

You may think you’re doing everything you possibly can, but sometimes, it takes slowing down and practicing deep mindfulness and self-awareness—like many of us are doing as we reflect on the past year and plan for the one ahead—to see your blind spots. 

If you’re trying to figure out what yours are, the list below is a great first step. Here are nine surprising things that may be thwarting you from achieving the success you desire. 

1. You’re Following Someone Else’s Definition Of Success

This means you’re comparing your performance to someone else’s (or society’s) timeline and goals, which will just lead to an inaccurate assessment. Create your own definition of success. Once you do, it should be the only one you pay attention to.

2. Due To A Lack Of Inner Work, A Lot Of Your Behaviors Don’t Align With Who You Really Want To Be

In our culture, we’ve been taught to seek therapy or coaching only when something’s wrong. But I strongly believe that you should do these things even when, on the surface, life seems fine. Understanding who you are and your psychology is essential for success and optimizing your potential.

Without understanding what’s going on inside your mind, you become a victim of the wiring you received from your family of origin. Their beliefs and “rules” are driving your decisions, and they shouldn’t be because you’ll probably end up acting in a way that isn’t in line with the person you want to be.

No matter your goals, you must be aware of your unconscious behaviors in order to achieve them. If you don’t have a therapist or coach right at this moment, you can start to build self-awareness by first slowing down and starting to notice moments where you’re either really happy or really not. What is the mental chatter that’s swirling around in your head? Start to pay attention to these messages. This can be a powerful way to begin the process of understanding what internal messages are driving certain behaviors.

3. You’re Adhering To Outdated Social Norms

You need to get a college degree to be successful. Benefits and pay are more important than how the job makes you feel. Job hopping is bad—really bad! These are all old rules that no longer apply to the modern business world. If you’re following them (or any of these), you’re short-changing yourself big time. You can—and should—break these rules if it’s right for you…

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