25 Jan You’re not a failure. How to get past a setback and back in the game
Struggling to achieve your New Year resolutions?
Stuck in a rut and feeling disillusioned?
Where ever you are and whatever you’re feeling, we all fail sometimes, have setbacks, or just struggle in some way or other.
As such, we could all benefit from the tips in this great Fast Company article by Linda Warwrzyniak …
Often when we fail at something, we either try again futilely, freeze up, or quit in frustration. Our hearts race, our minds can be burdened with doubt, and our spirits can be defeated. This happens with endeavors as big as starting a business or as small as trying to hit a baseball in the neighborhood park. Failure has such a powerful sting that it can prevent some of the most determined and talented people from reaching their full potential and achieving mastery in their profession. It can become too much a part of their identity.
Daniel Bard, a pitcher for the Boston Red Sox, got a bad case of the “yips,” which stopped his career for a while. After being one of the best pitchers in the game, he suddenly couldn’t throw anything. Every pitch required great effort. His identity was so wrapped up in his performance that he put incredible pressure on himself to succeed. So he stopped pitching in 2017. He left the game for a while.
Daniel responded with time off. While that’s one option to work through failure, that’s not always possible for everyone. There is another way to respond—one that will set you up for success on your next attempt, which can be a game changer post-failure. It’s one that the very best professional athletes and highly successful people know and use, but it is not being taught as frequently in today’s game. For high performers, failure is a daily occurrence, and the best have learned the power of holding off on self-judgement through a technique I call the “hover.”
This technique involves pausing after failure—before your beliefs about your abilities harden. It’s the “grey” area where we don’t allow ourselves to make judgements, but rather actively see and work on the next move instead. In my book, Million Dollar Adjustments, I share how the best adjusters hover after failure, giving them the mental “reset” they need to continue without labels or stress. Because the road to success is not a straight line, we could really make failure part of our identity if we aren’t careful.
Here is how pausing, or “hovering,” can quickly set you up for success…
… keep reading the full & original article HERE