4 effective ways to become more resilient

4 effective ways to become more resilient

Sometimes, life is hard.

In fact, life is hard almost all the time!

But life can also be wonderful; and fun and full of joy and happiness.

And much of it comes down to how we deal with the hardships life brings.

This is what’s often referred to as resilience. And the good news is that resilience can be learned and practised and mastered and … well, if this is something you’re interested in then check out this Fast Company article by LaRae Quy …

During this pandemic, I’ve read many ridiculous articles about how resilience means “bouncing through” our obstacles—as though riding out a pandemic is life on a trampoline. These Band-Aids of advice do nothing to encourage people to look for the deep healing they will need if they truly want to be resilient.

To say we bounce back from adversity implies we ping back and forth until we return to the person we were before. But once we find ourselves on solid ground after experiencing a crisis, we know that we are different. We have been through something significant; we’ve seen battle and have survived. We have the scars to prove it.

We don’t bounce back; we move through.

Resilience is the ability to adapt to our circumstances. When creatures adapt to their environment, it’s because they can leave something behind as well as learn something new. In short, they change.

We’ve seen a lot of adversity over the past few years, and it has begun to beat us down. It’s no secret that we are becoming less psychologically resilient. We are facing a growing mental health problem. Stress levels are through the roof—rates of anxiety and depression are at all-time highs.

While this may sound grim, it’s also important to remember that studies show a significant number of people have found ways to thrive and grow during hard times. These people found ways to become stronger because of a crisis, not despite it.

People can change how they see themselves when they explore feelings about life and find significance in relationships. This is called post-traumatic growth.

Resilience is not something that’s handed down at birth, like a crown or a trust fund. Psychologists have learned that resilience can be cultivated and grown, no matter your age, and it often thrives in the middle of a crisis. It’s something that is uniquely earned through courage and hard work.

1. BUILD A STRONG SOCIAL NETWORK

A recent study on the stress of COVID-19 suggests that, when people are going through a crisis, many begin to wonder if life has lost some of its meaning. But, with social support, many experience markers of post-traumatic growth—a sense that they have helped others.

Other research suggests that it is critical to stay close to people who will support and encourage you. You need strong connections with others because when life knocks you on your butt—because if it’s not COVID-19, it will be something else—you’ll need an emotional safety net of people who can share the burden with you.

How to make it work for you: If life is great now, this is the time to build important relationships with honest friends. Because good times never last, and a strong social network reminds you that you’re not alone, that everyone struggles. When you talk out your fears and concerns, you’ll find that people who appear to exude the outward appearance of confidence and success often have the same fears and concerns that you do…

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