The Value of Learning to Say No

The Value of Learning to Say No

In many ways, happiness and living a good life involves saying YES to life, saying YES to adventure and experiences and so much more.

But at the same time, given the obvious fact that we all have limited time, in order to say YES to life we need, by default, to say NO to certain things. We literally can’t say yes to everything because we just don’t have enough time (or energy).

Many people, however, find it difficult to say no; which is why I’m sharing this important article by Robert Glazer via Thrive Global …

As you reach higher levels of success, you often have the ability to help more people, and more people are likely to ask for your help. At the same time, you still have significant responsibilities to your family, career, close friends and community; people already depending on you to give them your time and attention.

One person can’t be all things to all people. And those that try – by saying “yes” to everything that’s asked of them – will inevitably let themselves and others down.

Warren Buffett understood this all too well when he said, “The difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say no to almost everything.”

Personally, I’ve struggled to say “no” to others for most of my professional life. I’ve worried about coming off as unapproachable or, worse, that others will think I perceive myself as being more important than them in some way.

I’ve been on a journey to find a better way to say no, especially as my personal and professional responsibilities have increased. Then, last year, I listened to an episode of The Tim Ferriss Show, titled “How to Say No.”

The points he made and the advice he offered really got me thinking about how to say no in a different way. When I tested out some of Ferriss’ recommendations, I came to realize that I am actually happier and more productive when I say no to others and commit to less.

Here are three strategies, the third taken from Ferriss’ podcast episode, that have helped me get better at saying no.

1. Give Up the Guilt

When you begin to feel guilt for saying no to another person’s request, be it for a few minutes of your time, a financial contribution or help with a time-consuming project, it’s important to weigh it against the other commitments you have already made that need your full focus.

If you’re able to do both and your priorities are aligned, great. However, if saying yes to the request will mean time and attention away from something meaningful that you’ve already committed to, then saying no is the right thing to do. Someone else’s passion or priorities may not be your own, and that’s okay…

… keep reading the full & original article HERE