15 Apr If You’re Experiencing Negative Self-talk, Try This Unexpected Tip
Whether you’re aware of it all not, we all talk to ourselves.
Despite the myths, it’s not a sign of insanity; it’s just part of being a cognitive being.
For some, that self-talk can be motivating and inspiring. But for some of us, it can be less than positive. In fact, for some of it that internal dialogue can create depression, anxiety and massively impact on our lives in many, many ways.
But the good news is there are ways of dealing with this. And this Thrive Global article by Britt Frank proffers a tip that’s definitely worth trying …
Richard Schwartz compares your internal system to an orchestra. An orchestra contains multiple musicians, sections, and instruments. If the musicians decided to sit wherever they wanted and play whatever they wanted, the result would be cacophony. An orchestra conductor is necessary to turn noise into music. Schwartz writes: “A good conductor has a sense of value of each instrument and the ability of every musician, and is so familiar with music theory that he or she can sense precisely the best point in a symphony to draw out one section and mute another . . . this kind of system is (literally) harmonious . . . Thus, I am suggesting that we all have within us a capable conductor.”
The “capable conductor” is known by many different names—the Essential Self, the Higher Self, the Soul, inner wisdom, the Buddha nature, Christ consciousness, Atman, unus mundus, the True Self, the inner teacher, the Holy Spirit, the inner leader . . . and the list goes on. Call it whatever you want—the point is that Self–leadership is required to manage our shadow impulses and to get unstuck. Self-leadership is the practice of responding to stressors rather than reacting to triggers.
The goal of therapy (or any inner work) is not to change yourself, it’s to know yourself—and to then conduct your inner orchestra with skill and compassion. We often think of self-compassion as the practice of saying “nice” things about ourselves, but genuine self-compassion is more than that. Genuine self-compassion is a daring quest to know every corner of your inner world. It is a journey to befriend all of the parts of yourself. Genuine self-compassion requires you to refuse to abandon even the most shadowy parts of your psyche. All behaviors are not acceptable, but all parts are valuable…
… keep reading the full & original article HERE