17 Apr A Psychologist’s 3 Tools To Quiet The Negative Voice Inside Your Head
Every single one of us has a voice inside our head.
We all “talk” to ourselves.
For some, it can be inspiriting and motivating. For others, not so much.
But even for the more optimistic among us, there will always be times that voice gets a bit negative, critical, and maybe even self-defeating.
When it does, you might want to try these 3 tips …
via MindBodyGreen by Jason Wachob
It happens to us all at some point: You experience a stressful event or face a problem, and you become caught up in a whirlwind of negative self-talk, or what award-winning psychologist Ethan Kross, Ph.D., calls “chatter.”
Of course, the oft-stated advice to just stay positive! doesn’t really help. In most cases, it only makes those dark thoughts stronger. So how can you actually conquer the negative voice inside your head? Well, Kross offers a few actionable tools to escape that destructive thought loop. In fact, the very title of his new book is Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How To Harness It.
Here, Kross offers some of his go-to strategies:
1. Distant self-talk.
The first thing to know about chatter, says Kross, is that it causes you to narrowly zoom in on the problem at hand. “You keep replaying it and think, ‘Oh my God, what am I going to do? What does this mean?'” he explains. That’s why Kross recommends implementing “self-distancing” tools to help you escape that tunnel-vision mindset. The first tool: distant self-talk, or giving yourself advice in the third person.
“Try to work through a problem using your own name,” he says. “It is much easier for us to give advice to other people than to ourselves when we are experiencing chatter. And distant self-talk uses language to shift your perspective and talk to yourself more similarly to how you would communicate with someone else that you care about.” That way, you can effectively work through a problem without berating yourself in the process…
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